A woman really doesn't want much from a man.
There are really only seven things – seven qualities that she’s looking for in a life partner.
Although these qualities are hard to find, they are qualities of which every man is capable.
These seven things are not out of any man’s reach, yet the fact is that most lack at least one.
Now, you may like to argue that no one is perfect and therefore no one has all seven of these qualities, but that’s just not true.
There are plenty of men out there who are sufficient in each of these categories,
not perfectly, but sufficient enough to make a woman incredibly happy. That’s all that matters, right?
1. Honesty – but not too much of it.
A woman doesn't want a man to lie to her about important matters.
She wants to be an important part of his life – the most important part, in fact.
She wants to know the things that are going on his life and she wants him to have trust in her.
As far as she is concerned, they are one – his life is her life.
She wants him to want to share in his pleasant experiences and memories.
She also doesn't want him to feel that he has to lie,
because when that is the case it usually means that he was stepping out of line, making poor choices and mistakes.
On the other hand, she doesn't want the truth in all circumstances. Brutal honesty isn't wanted.
If she asks, she looks great, she looks beautiful, the fact she gained 15 pounds doesn't bother you,
her new haircut makes her look even cuter. Now that I think about it,
the only thing you should really lie is about such shallow matters as appearances.
We all look like sh*t sometimes – but she doesn't need to hear you say it.
2. Understanding – so that she doesn't feel the need to have to explain herself.
She wants you to know her – inside and out. Why? Because only then will you love her for her.
We all sometimes need confirmation that we’re worth loving.
The real us – not the people others perceive us to be.
We may not all need such a confirmation of our value, but we all want it.
But it’s more than just that.
Having someone understand you is having someone completely know you for the person that you really are.
There’s no confusion, there’s no misunderstanding or misconception.
They know you for you and because they know you for the person you really are, you, in a sense, exist outside of yourself.
As long as they live on, so do you.
3. Caring – she needs to know she matters to you.
To be cared for means not to be alone in this life.
Most people are forced to care for themselves and the truth is that it’s a lot more difficult than people let on.
As human beings, we aren't always in the right mindset to care for ourselves.
To top it off, that’s usually exactly when we need the most caring – when we aren't mentally or physically capable of doing it ourselves.
She wants you to be there for her when she needs someone, to be there to share her burden.
I know it sounds ridiculous, but she wants you to make her life a little easier.
Craziness – I know. On the upside, she’ll be there for you when no one else will.
Fair enough trade off I think.
4. Strength – both mental and physical.
No woman wants a physical weakling – it’s against her nature.
That doesn't mean she won’t settle for slightly less than Herculean, but you’re a man dammit.
She wants to feel that when she’s in your presence.
She wants you to be intelligent and to practice self-control simply because you can.
We’re all still animals and women will always be attracted to the stronger men.
She wants you to be strong not for the sake of being strong – she wants you to be strong for her.
It brings her pleasure, makes her feel safe and turns her on. Do you honestly need more convincing?
5. Compassion – shows her you’re capable of loving.
A woman doesn't only want a man to have love only for her, but a love for life, for living things.
She wants a kind man, a man whom others will look up to, appreciate and admire. She wants a good man.
She doesn't see being good and compassionate as a weakness. And that’s because it’s not.
I know lots of men are taught that to be strong you have to be hateful, spiteful and malicious.
That’s very unfortunate, but it’s simply the world we live in. She doesn't need that.
You don’t need that either. No one does.
6. Security – financial and literal.
You don’t need to be a millionaire. Well, for some women, you very well may need to be,
but hopefully you’ll only end up with one who admires the traits required for turning oneself into a millionaire and not the money alone.
Generally speaking, the right woman will love you for you, but she does need you to make her feel secure.
She wants to feel that you will protect her from physical harm. She wants to know that you’ll keep her safe,
healthy and comfortable. Does she need you to keep her safe? To bring home the bread? No.
But she’d like you to be capable of it – even if her salary is bigger than yours.
She’ll have your back too so you can rest easier as well.
7. Blind Loyalty – she wants to be the only woman he has eyes for.
We all have big egos – men and women alike. We want to feel special. We want to feel unique and better than the rest.
We’re competitive by nature and there is no getting around it. Women want a man who sees the world in her.
Her and only her.
She knows she’s not the most beautiful or smartest woman in the world, but she doesn't need to be – she’s not delusional.
She just wants you to think – know – that she’s the most beautiful, best woman in the world for you.
She needs you to think she is the best thing that ever happened to you.
She wants to be the best and she wants a man who will allot her that title.
Wednesday 23 April 2014
3rd day without you
BB Stephenie Chua,
Today is the 3rd day I'm living in a world without you. Last night I dream about you. We were still a happy couple in dream, its seems like everything never happen before. I was so happy till suddenly my alarm sound and I need to force myself to wake up. I just wish that I won't be waking up and keep on dreaming about you. As a wise man once say, happy moment won't last long. As I always do, the 1st thing I wake up is starting to miss you. So wanted to message you and call you. But I know reality is harsh. All I can do I just kept all this feelings to myself. The whole morning i was trying hard to make myself busy from working and hopping that i wont think about you for a second, but i cant control myself from thinking of you. i kept on thinking, how are you today? how do you feeling today? eat already? if eat already, will you eat enough? how is your leg wound? will you take care of the wound properly? have you think of me? are you missing me? every second passed just so slow. its seems like the world has suddenly spin much more slower these few days. I had lunch in a normal lunch hour. I don't even have a good appetite. I just ate a bit of the food in the plate, while missing you for the whole time. I feel so sad. I keep on thinking are you had you lunch also? Were you keep doing your work and forgot to eat? I use up my whole lunch hour sitting at there looking at my phone. I read all the history message that we chat with each other everyday from the day we start. For once, I was smiling while reading how lovely and sweet we are. But then I feel wanted to cry, because its not the same anymore. Till I finish my work, how I deeply feel that I wanted to find you. But I can't, because I knew if I did that, you will feel like I'm quite annoying. I felt so deeply sad and moody, then I called 1 of our friend. I asked her to sing karaoke with me, I just hopping to release all the sadness of today out. But all my plan has failed, because she had her own plan already. I went back home, lying on my bed, still keeping on thinking of you and missing you so much. I skipped my dinner, listening to radio, hopping that the dj's can make me feel happy for a bit. But I feel like, everything that I see, I regain every sweet moment that we had been together. Example, while I'm listening to the radio, my memories hits me with that time I was fetching you out together on your offday and we were sitting in a car listening to it. It's not only listening to radio. Yesterday I passed my Tropicana mall. I went in and walk around, when I passed by the Nando's restaurant. I saw myself sitting on that table with you while chatting happily and we were still caring for each other. I just cant stand this anymore, i went put from my house and go to cyber cafe, hopping to release some stress in it. Yes, I keep win in my game, but I can't feel the happy feelings at all. I feel so lonely, I feel in this world, I'm the only one that have left. I feel so alone. I wanted to cry hard. But my tears just can't flow out. My heart had been crushed into tiny pieces just like dust. I drove my way to PJ area sitting alone and have some beers just to make myself drunk and forgotten all of this for a moment, but I just can't stop missing you. Did you know that I'm still love you? Were you still feeling the same? I keep on lying to myself that deep inside you, you still have the love feeling towards me. I look into my phone again, I see back all the picture that we took together, every moment that we had spent together, it's just a lovely feelings. On the day we broke up, I told myself that I will wrote a "I miss you" words when I'm missing you. For today is the 3rd day. I had been wrote more then a thousand times "I miss you" words. I keep on telling to myself that deep inside you, we still loving each other and caring for each other. While I'm writhing this, my tears are flowing bit by bit, I don't care other people saw it. I had my 6th bottle of beers, sitting alone in a cafe while looking at the table we normally sit, across this cafe is another cafe that we went before and a bank. It's remind me how sweet we are on that day. It just make me wanted to cry it out loud. The music that I'm listening in my phone is "I'm still loving you". The lyrics really make me cry, because it says every words in my heart.
Today is the 3rd day I'm living in a world without you. Last night I dream about you. We were still a happy couple in dream, its seems like everything never happen before. I was so happy till suddenly my alarm sound and I need to force myself to wake up. I just wish that I won't be waking up and keep on dreaming about you. As a wise man once say, happy moment won't last long. As I always do, the 1st thing I wake up is starting to miss you. So wanted to message you and call you. But I know reality is harsh. All I can do I just kept all this feelings to myself. The whole morning i was trying hard to make myself busy from working and hopping that i wont think about you for a second, but i cant control myself from thinking of you. i kept on thinking, how are you today? how do you feeling today? eat already? if eat already, will you eat enough? how is your leg wound? will you take care of the wound properly? have you think of me? are you missing me? every second passed just so slow. its seems like the world has suddenly spin much more slower these few days. I had lunch in a normal lunch hour. I don't even have a good appetite. I just ate a bit of the food in the plate, while missing you for the whole time. I feel so sad. I keep on thinking are you had you lunch also? Were you keep doing your work and forgot to eat? I use up my whole lunch hour sitting at there looking at my phone. I read all the history message that we chat with each other everyday from the day we start. For once, I was smiling while reading how lovely and sweet we are. But then I feel wanted to cry, because its not the same anymore. Till I finish my work, how I deeply feel that I wanted to find you. But I can't, because I knew if I did that, you will feel like I'm quite annoying. I felt so deeply sad and moody, then I called 1 of our friend. I asked her to sing karaoke with me, I just hopping to release all the sadness of today out. But all my plan has failed, because she had her own plan already. I went back home, lying on my bed, still keeping on thinking of you and missing you so much. I skipped my dinner, listening to radio, hopping that the dj's can make me feel happy for a bit. But I feel like, everything that I see, I regain every sweet moment that we had been together. Example, while I'm listening to the radio, my memories hits me with that time I was fetching you out together on your offday and we were sitting in a car listening to it. It's not only listening to radio. Yesterday I passed my Tropicana mall. I went in and walk around, when I passed by the Nando's restaurant. I saw myself sitting on that table with you while chatting happily and we were still caring for each other. I just cant stand this anymore, i went put from my house and go to cyber cafe, hopping to release some stress in it. Yes, I keep win in my game, but I can't feel the happy feelings at all. I feel so lonely, I feel in this world, I'm the only one that have left. I feel so alone. I wanted to cry hard. But my tears just can't flow out. My heart had been crushed into tiny pieces just like dust. I drove my way to PJ area sitting alone and have some beers just to make myself drunk and forgotten all of this for a moment, but I just can't stop missing you. Did you know that I'm still love you? Were you still feeling the same? I keep on lying to myself that deep inside you, you still have the love feeling towards me. I look into my phone again, I see back all the picture that we took together, every moment that we had spent together, it's just a lovely feelings. On the day we broke up, I told myself that I will wrote a "I miss you" words when I'm missing you. For today is the 3rd day. I had been wrote more then a thousand times "I miss you" words. I keep on telling to myself that deep inside you, we still loving each other and caring for each other. While I'm writhing this, my tears are flowing bit by bit, I don't care other people saw it. I had my 6th bottle of beers, sitting alone in a cafe while looking at the table we normally sit, across this cafe is another cafe that we went before and a bank. It's remind me how sweet we are on that day. It just make me wanted to cry it out loud. The music that I'm listening in my phone is "I'm still loving you". The lyrics really make me cry, because it says every words in my heart.
I just hope that you were still missing me and love me somewhere inside.
I miss you bb and I love you. I really do. I just can't live my life anymore without. It's hurt so much
Sincerely,
Your ex bb Shaun
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